Bad Bosses.

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That title is a clickbait.

This has been a choir for most to talk shit about their bad bosses. This time around, I do not give the credit to a convulsion of unworthy pack of shitty people.

I would like to focus on the great bosses that I have been ever so grateful and fortunate to encounter. Circumventing the saying that in 99% of what you’ve done right, everyone will see the 1% that you’ve done wrong, I will focus on that precious 99% that was right. THE BEST BOSSES.

My first boss gave me so much wisdom and knowledge that got my career started right. Firstly, she said that “Everything rises and falls on leadership” (John C. Maxwell)¬†and even gave me one of Maxwell’s books. I took that very simply – that being a leader is a huge responsibility. It is based not on power but wisdom to drive an objective. But indeed, there’s more to it than this.

I was green. I started my career at 21 years old. As an artist riding the corporate world, I have no inclinations as to what may come. I was gullible, naive, impressionable. Given a blank canvass, my boss took a chance and painted me with complex brushes of values, ethics and empowerment. She never let me compromise on what I can be. She let me shine. She let me be me.

That is a leader, a great boss. They elevate and make most out of their people. They grow and they let everyone grow with them. They never compromise their team’s expense to gain their own. Even at their worst, all they do is to show their true character of resilience, honesty, strength and humility.

She told me to learn from her mistakes but do not copy them. Take all the good things about her and learn from the bad things about her and make it better. I still take that up to this day, 18 years down the road and going.

Having said 18 years, I always look back to this #bestbossever. She just attended my wedding a week ago. We have been friends from the day she interviewed me for a job. It is such an extra. Her impact will always stay with me and I am proud to say that because of her, I try everyday to be a good leader. I won’t stop here. The bad bosses can shove it up their arse but they are not worth anything but pity. The best bosses always win.

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Tricky Characters volume 1*

Career experience is not enough to judge a person’s body of work. It requires a deeper look into their perspectives and the way they learned beyond their in-the-books background. The idealism and realism are both powerful notes on how you could hire or work with the right people within your organization.

I was mistakingly judged by a younger executive that I won’t like a fast-paced working environment. Says who? My clear statement that “I easily get bored so I always have to feed fuel to my fire” may not be as clear as I thought. My problem is that I use metaphors and creativity to explain myself which usually gets lost in translation if the other party I am talking to possesses English only as their second language. From which, I have also communicated how important life-work balance for me is… to a 28 year-old young, single, restless and energetic executive. Hence, a bad conclusion. Like a mixture of bad cocktail drugs of [mis]judgment.

Beyond professional or personal factors, it is common to hear what you wanted to hear within any situation. That makes someone misjudge what is being truly said within the context of the whole conversation. Ever wonder why one negative statement could destroy the 999 positive things that you have done? Because personal opinions have not been segmented objectively. People jump quickly to conclusions without having to ask more, if uncomfortable, questions.

Emotions based on personal opinions are tricky. It clouds judgment and action. Yet they also spark the best creative ideas and passion. It is complex. Professionally (personally too), you just need to strike a balance.

– What is the objective?

– What are the major focus of this particular agenda for you to be able to come up with the right conclusion?

– Why do I feel this way, and is this feeling important to the matter?

– Did I really understand what has been discussed?

– Should I ask for more questions to reassert?

Judgment is a very strong word. But it always comes up anywhere. You can’t avoid it as much as you could try so why not just manage it? Just make sure that you won’t embarrass yourself in the process– or you should. It is, after all, a good mistake to learn from.

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Instinct is the gift of experience. The first question you have to ask yourself is, ‘On what basis am I making a judgment?’ … If you have no experience, then your instincts aren’t any good.

Malcolm Gladwell

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*This will be a series.